lesbehonest.

I want to be like water;

(via littlest-wing)

selectiveavant-garde:

It’s not a fucking woman’s job to be consumed and invaded and spat out so that some fucking man can evolve. 

always reblog.

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jesuswasajew:

Holy fucking shit, my gf is actually drop dead gorgus. Like how she looks at this picture and still has a low self esteem is beyond me.

oh look, it’s my hawt friend Victoria’s hawt gf Natasha. I have hot friends. nbd

(via whackedup)

Ah, it’s happening. #graduation (Taken with instagram)

psychopathiccriminals:

Dr. Hare’s Sociopathic Traits Checklist

• GLIB and SUPERFICIAL CHARM - the tendency to be smooth, engaging, charming, slick, and verbally facile. Sociopathic charm is not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything. A sociopath never gets tongue-tied. They have freed themselves from the social conventions about taking turns in talking, for example.

• GRANDIOSE SELF-WORTH - a grossly inflated view of one’s abilities and self-worth, self-assured, opinionated, cocky, a braggart. Sociopaths are arrogant people who believe they are superior human beings.

• NEED FOR STIMULATION or PRONENESS TO BOREDOM - an excessive need for novel, thrilling, and exciting stimulation; taking chances and doing things that are risky. Sociopaths often have low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because they get bored easily. They fail to work at the same job for any length of time, for example, or to finish tasks that they consider dull or routine.

• PATHOLOGICAL LYING - can be moderate or high; in moderate form, they will be shrewd, crafty, cunning, sly, and clever; in extreme form, they will be deceptive, deceitful, underhanded, unscrupulous, manipulative, and dishonest.

• CONNING AND MANIPULATIVENESS - the use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or defraud others for personal gain; distinguished from Item #4 in the degree to which exploitation and callous ruthlessness is present, as reflected in a lack of concern for the feelings and suffering of one’s victims.

• LACK OF REMORSE OR GUILT - a lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, coldhearted, and un empathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one’s victims.

• SHALLOW AFFECT - emotional poverty or a limited range or depth of feelings; interpersonal coldness in spite of signs of open gregariousness.

• CALLOUSNESS and LACK OF EMPATHY - a lack of feelings toward people in general; cold, contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.

• PARASITIC LIFESTYLE - an intentional, manipulative, selfish, and exploitative financial dependence on others as reflected in a lack of motivation, low self-discipline, and inability to begin or complete responsibilities.

• POOR BEHAVIORAL CONTROLS - expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience, threats, aggression, and verbal abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper; acting hastily.

• PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR - a variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of several relationships at the same time; a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits or conquests.

• EARLY BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS - including lying, theft, cheating, vandalism, bullying, sexual activity, fire-setting, glue-sniffing, alcohol use, and running away from home.

• LACK OF REALISTIC, LONG-TERM GOALS - an inability or persistent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals; a nomadic existence, aimless, lacking direction in life.

• IMPULSIVITY - the occurrence of behaviors that are unpremeditated and lack reflection or planning; inability to resist temptation, frustrations, and urges; a lack of deliberation without considering the consequences; foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic, and reckless.

• IRRESPONSIBILITY - repeated failure to fulfill or honor obligations and commitments; such as not paying bills, defaulting on loans, performing sloppy work, being absent or late to work, failing to honor contractual agreements.

• FAILURE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OWN ACTIONS - a failure to accept responsibility for one’s actions reflected in low conscientiousness, an absence of dutifulness, antagonistic manipulation, denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others through this denial.

• MANY SHORT-TERM MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS - a lack of commitment to a long-term relationship reflected in inconsistent, undependable, and unreliable commitments in life, including marital.

• JUVENILE DELINQUENCY - behavior problems between the ages of 13-18; mostly behaviors that are crimes or clearly involve aspects of antagonism, exploitation, aggression, manipulation, or a callous, ruthless tough-mindedness.

• REVOCATION OF CONDITION RELEASE - a revocation of probation or other conditional release due to technical violations, such as carelessness, low deliberation, or failing to appear.

• CRIMINAL VERSATILITY - a diversity of types of criminal offenses, regardless if the person has been arrested or convicted for them; taking great pride at getting away with crimes.

(Source: ramirezdahmerbundy, via herhoneyedlips)

aaaaah i wish.

(Source: veiledfairys, via kissed-by-chaos)

fatandtheivy:

My Fat Body Brought Me To Self-Acceptance, published on RoleReboot

Last week, Kerry Cohen wrote a piece about what it would be like if she were fat. What I gleaned from Kerry’s article is not a representation of the lives of fatties, but rather a case of “at least I’m not as fat as her.” The rules of the game are simple. In order to loathe your body less, you find someone fatter and uglier than you, and then you can be content knowing that even though your body is obviously a disgusting wreck not worthy of love, it could be a lot worse. You could be THAT FAT. The premise of the game is that negative feelings about her body are proportional to body size. I feel frustrated when I read these types of “what if I were fat” articles because there are plenty of fat people strolling about the world happy to tell you what it’s like. We walk among you—you might even know us!—and yet there are still specials with celebrity talk show hosts dressing up in fat suits to tell me what it’s like to be fat. (Because all fat people are actually thin people temporarily trapped in a fat body.) So, to set the record straight, I, an expert fatass, will tell you what it’s like to be fat. (It must be noted that fat is not a monolith; my experiences are shared by many, but are not universal.)

There are actual, physical, institutional problems that fatties face. As I’ve written about here before, chairs don’t fit. Clothes are hard to find, and are all too often both ugly and expensive. There’s open employment discrimination, and fatties are paid significantly less. Depictions of our bodies are limited to montages ofheadless fatties while newscasters profess the dangers of the Fat Rampage or sad fatties in the before picture in a diet ad. Physicians refuse to treat our illnesses and regularly mistreat and abuse us when they do decide to treat us. There are also terrible pervasive myths about the fat body. One is that fat acts as a repellent for male attention. Male attention is not a unit of measure for my value as a woman and my beauty. Even so, my fat body does not repel men. I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, but if it were my prerogative, I could get laid tonight before my dinner is delivered. Branching off of that idea is the idea that the fat body is unlovable. No fat person could possibly love or even accept their body. I mean, it’s just so fat! We are all trained to loathe our bodies—I’d argue that it’s part of the capitalist scheme to trick us into buying more useless products, but that’s another essay.

Another myth is the idea that self-acceptance is impossible. This is a myth. It’s not true. The premise of the “At Least I’m Not As Fat” game is faulty. Not all fatties hate their bodies. This is important, so I’ll say it again: Self-acceptance is possible. It does not come out of thin air—empty affirmations will not get you there. A loving relationship with your body, like any meaningful relationship, can only be built brick by brick.

I have been lucky to find wonderfully brilliant, kind, and generous fat people who have helped me to develop the tools necessary to build a loving relationship with my body. These fatties have had enough. They have taken to cultivating a critical resistance to the cultural norms. It is this critical resistance that has challenged my relationship with my body and allowed for self acceptance and sometimes even love. Margitte Kristjansson taught me that I don’t have to explain my fat to anyone. Tasha Fierce taught me how to see that my fat body is sexy. Michelle taught me how to eat—not how to diet or how to eat with the intent of changing my body, just eating. Food. Lesley Kinzel taught me to not step on a scale. Hanne Blank taught me to negotiate boundaries with my physicians. 

Through the testimonies of my fellow fatasses and a thoughtful introspection about the lived realities of my life, I have found peace. I accept and sometimes even love my fat body because I see through the lies and deception of diet culture.

My fat body brought me to self-acceptance. That’s more than most thin people can say.

Photos by Mason Fitch. Words by yours truly. 

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